Lessons From the Rocking Chair

Let's learn something shall we... Here is what I am learning lately that maybe you've already learned as a parent but frankly, I need constant reminders.  Are you ready for it? Kids don't need perfection from you, they just need your presence.  I think the difficulty of parenting, especially in the current generation, is that we have to correct everything that we grew up with. Our parents did the best they could with the information they had and we, in my generation (the millennial generation), feel the need to be better.  I think that we have people that fall on both ends of the spectrum too. Some that are too left extreme that they aren't really a parent to their children but rather a friend. Think Lorelai Gilmore from Gilmore Girls. Those who are too right extreme that follow the principle of "if it ain't broke don't fix it." They choose to parent exactly how they were parented, refusing to recognize that their might be a better way to do it.  Final...

 Let's learn something shall we... Often times, when people think of therapy, they think of digging down deep into those crevices that many of us know are necessary for us to explore, but none of us really want to explore because we know there is a chance it's going to hurt, bad.  I think we're often afraid of the truth of our flaws, fears, insecurities, etc. and that if we bring them to light, well, now we have to deal with them.  When I attended therapy in college, my therapist did some deep digging with me and some big personal family struggles were brought to light for me. Stuff that I really didn't want to dig into, as we did though, I found that I was able to make peace with a lot of them.  Some of those I am still working on, but there is one area that I never really dove into. Until this last therapy session that I had.  My therapist gave me an assignment to write a letter. For context, the concept I am currently working on in therapy is breaking down wh...